ArcaNuova · Closeness · Relationship · Imperfection

The Blur of Closeness

Machines improve when you adjust them. People often move farther away. Closeness may begin where repair stops.

I learned how to optimize machines.

You turn a screw and the result improves.

People work differently.

The more you turn and adjust them, the farther away they move.

Not visibly.

Not immediately.

But perceptibly.

A relationship is not a problem waiting to be solved.

It is a condition that must be endured.

With its faults.

With its gaps.

With its quiet days.

I used to believe love meant becoming better together.

Today I believe love means being allowed to remain incomplete together.

Without repair.

Without a plan.

Without a target value.

That does not mean everything must be accepted.

It only means that closeness does not grow from constant correction.

Perhaps this very blur is the reason closeness can exist at all.

Related thoughts

Black dog with a thoughtful look
Who is thinking behind it?

ArcaNuova is not a finished product, but an ark for thoughts that can be taken along, grasped, understood and reused. What stands here should not merely be read. It should trigger something: an impulse, a tool, a beginning.

Behind ArcaNuova are experience, observation and the attempt to think about things clearly and practically. No psychological fog. No empty chatter. Something you can actually get hold of.

Thoughts

The author of ArcaNuova by the sea
Who writes behind it?

His path led from dental technician to dentist and from dentist to philosopher. He carried forward fewer titles than tools: precise observation, careful case history, diagnosis and the willingness to discard an initial assumption when reality does not fit it.

The thoughts do not come from a textbook, but from experience: in a dental practice, a solar installation, a router, an olive harvest or occasionally in the gaze of a dog.

More about the author

Thoughts

Festival of lights. Humanly conceived, technically illuminated.
How does he write?

As a dentist, I was used to well-trained office staff revising my medical texts. They corrected spelling, smoothed formulations and made complicated sentences readable. Nobody would therefore have credited them with the medical ideas.

Retirement ended not only the practice but also the office. Apparently only a president can take the entire staff into retirement. For linguistic revision I therefore switched to artificial intelligence.

The division of labour remained essentially the same: I provide thoughts, experiences and attitude; AI helps with sentence structure, spelling and polish. The new office assistant simply needs no desk, no holidays and shows a remarkable enthusiasm for syntax.

The birth round of my seal

Thoughts

Breaking wave in the Blue Lagoon
Why does he write?

The author has a pronounced curiosity and a tendency to follow thoughts long after others have changed the subject. Not everyone wants to discuss society, technology, philosophy or life’s absurdities over coffee. That is probably sensible.

In writing, every thought finds the space it needs, and every reader can decide how far to follow it.

Thoughts